Letting Go

“I have no idea what I want to do next.” I’m having coffee with my friend, Susan. You wouldn’t know from her expressive brown eyes, quick smile and warm nature […]

Our relationship started, as all great relationships do, with no thought about the ending. It was 1996 and I had recently initiated a series of good-byes. I left the religion […]

Lizzy oversees corporate communications for a nationally known software developer. Over a five-year period, while maintaining her significant work responsibilities, Lizzy had four miscarriages. [...]

Earlier this week I had an argument with my friend. The contentious issue (I think my friend would agree) was not super-serious. It centered around our holiday plans. But, such […]

Honorable Closure requires a certain amount of rigor. One has to be willing to go the distance in order to resolve regrets and move forward into the future on a […]

This weekend I realized I have been feeling a low-grade melancholy, a heaviness of heart that cannot be attributed to the winter blues. (I live in draught-stricken California where winter […]

            “If you aren’t falling down, you aren’t learning anything”                 — My high school ski instructor In a […]

Remember the phrase Desirable Difficulties the next time you are shaking your head and thinking, “Really? Why me?” Malcom Gladwell’s latest book, David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits and the Art [...]

“My regrets keep coming back to haunt me. How can I resolve them and move on?” This question was raised during the Q&A portion of a public talk I recently […]

Holding on to a grievance is one way we tie ourselves to the past and limit what is possible for ourselves in the present and future. Here is a great […]