Woulda Shoulda #3: Bringing It Home

 In For Leaders, Honorable Closure (HC), Letting Go, Reclaiming Joy, Resolving Regrets, Sorry/Not Sorry

Honorable Closure requires a certain amount of rigor. One has to be willing to go the distance in order to resolve regrets and move forward into the future on a firm footing. Shannon and I were not quite done.

“Is there anything you need to say or do to be complete?” I asked. (This question comes from Step 3, Let Go, Let It Be, of my 4-step process for Honorable Closure.)

She decided to bring her team together and see what regrets they had so they could resolve them and learn together. She felt the need to apologize to them, and her creative director in particular, for shortening the process they all relied on to do their best work. She then assured them she would not do that again. (She also decided to share the video of Jimmy Kimmel’s Mean Tweets’s that I posted here, so they could all laugh together. After all, isn’t laughter the best medicine?) Last, she would ask her attorney about the idea to include contract language requiring client participation. More than anything she saw the need to strengthen her intuition by listening to it, standing firm on future projects to the things she (the expert) knows make for a creative, strong and mutually successful engagement.

Even though Honorable Closure is a reflective process, it’s overall objective is to Get Current and Be Here How. After all, reflecting and visioning both take place in a present moment where all the action is. Shannon needed to consider how she might be ignoring her intuition Right Now, in all aspects of her life, with her daughter, romantic relationship, employees, vendors, friends, etc. What red flags was she (or might you be) dismissing?

Finding Gold
Shannon’s eyes got dewy and she reaches for the Kleenex. We’ve hit a tender spot, the place where the gold is. She recognizes a pattern, one that kept her in her last romantic relationship far too long.

Good for Shannon. By addressing this larger pattern and resolving her regrets, she has made the whole nasty business of being fired a Master Class in Honorable Closure.

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